Monsters in Love : Why Your Partner Sometimes Drives You Crazy-and What You Can Do About It.

Format:

Book

Author/Creator:

Menakem, Resmaa.

Language:

English

Subjects (All):

Marital conflict.

Conflict management.

Interpersonal relations.

Emotions.

Physical Description:

1 online resource (261 pages)

Edition:

1st ed.

Other Title:

Monsters in Love

Place of Publication:

La Vergne : Central Recovery Press, LLC, 2023.

Summary:

"A gritty and down-to-earth guide for real-life couples"-- Provided by publisher.

Contents:

Intro

Title Page

Copyright

Dedication

Contents

Acknowledgments

From One Monster to Another

Welcome to Monsterworld

Part 1. How Relationships Really Work

1. Your Partnership Is about Transformation-Even If You Don't Want It to Be

2. Conflicts Can Be Messy-and Helpful

3. Not Hurting Is Not an Option

4. Double Binds in Committed Relationships

5. Why Everyone Hates Their Lover

6. Peril and Possibility Are the Same

7. You Can't Choose Not to Choose

8. The Dynamics of Critical Mass

9. Integrity Appears at the Most Difficult Times

10. Continuous Improvement in Relationships

11. Rocks and Holes

12. Collaborative and Coercive Alliances

13. The Hook

14. You Are Not Each Other's Baby

15. Monsters Operate on Vibes

16. The Communication Trap

17. Both/And

18. The Big Four

19. The Maps in Our Heads-and How They Can Mislead Us

20. People Can Tolerate Being Used, but They Hate Being Discarded or Discounted

21. Getting on Your Back to Get Your Partner Off Your Back

22. Why Most Couples Stop Having Sex

23. Little Traumas Can Cause Big Problems

24. What We Come into This World With

25. Trying to Get Milk from a Coke Machine: A Dialogue with James Maddock

26. Virtues and Limitations

27. When Something Is Missing

28. The Dance of Protection and Growth

29. Resistance and Ambivalence

30. Changing without Growing

31. The Twin Terrors of Togetherness and Autonomy

Part 2. Commitment, Power, and Control

32. When Commonplace Cruelty Turns Physical

33. The Rock of Power and the Hole of Control

34. How Our Culture Needs to Grow Up

Part 3. Intimacy and Alchemy

35. The Integrity of Confronting Yourself

36. The Brightened Self

37. Healthy Monsters and Healing Relationships.

38. Why Our Culture Sometimes Drives You Crazy-And What You Can Do About It

Part 4. How Therapy Really Works

39. People in Therapy Are Heroes

40. Underground Therapy

41. How Therapy Mirrors Marriage

42. When Therapists Cop Out

43. Why Therapy Often Doesn't Work

44. Integrity, Presence, and Not Knowing

Conclusion: Unfolding Purpose

About the Author

Deepening Your Experience of This Book.

Notes:

Description based on publisher supplied metadata and other sources.

ISBN:

9781949481808

1949481808

OCLC:

1500764638