Confronting shame : how to understand your shame and gain inner freedom / Ilse Sand ; translated by Mark Kline.

Format:

Book

Author/Creator:

Sand, Ilse, author.

Contributor:

Kline, Mark, translator.

Language:

English

Subjects (All):

Self-actualization (Psychology).

Shame.

Physical Description:

1 online resource (140 pages)

Distribution:

London : Bloomsbury Publishing (UK), 2025.

Place of Publication:

London : Jessica Kingsley Publisher, 2022.

System Details:

text file HTML

Summary:

Shame can underlie a multitude of common mental helaht problems including low self-esteem, depression and anxiety. Confronting Shame will help you understand and overcome your shame with reflective exercises in each chapter to rebuild your empath and compassion towards yourself.

Contents:

Cover

Title Page

Copyright

Contents

Introduction

Part One: Understanding Shame

1. The Nature and Function of Shame

The anxiety in shame

You can be unaware of shame

Situations that trigger shame

The difference between shame and guilt

A shame reaction is an alarm

Shame is a social emotion

Summary

2. Chronic Shame Arises from Inharmonious Interactions

Self-esteem and sense of self

Feeling truly seen

A distorted mirror

Attentive mirroring leads to inner support

Lack of mirroring leads to an absence of self-support

3. Shame Can Be a Reaction to a Hole in Your Sense of Self

The fear of vanishing into a void

Serious holes in our sense of self

Lack of solid ground

4. Shame Holds You Back

A difficult conversation

5. The False Self as a Defense against Shame

Success strengthens the false self

The fantastic, invincible false self

Shame about longing for love

The false self can't stand intimacy

Anger and contempt as a defense against intimacy

Get out of a fairy tale

Down the mountain and back home

Part Two: Tools

A vicious circle must be broken

6. Get to Know Yourself Better

How you receive feedback

Film yourself

Experience yourself from the inside

Get in touch with an even deeper level of yourself

Go into psychotherapy or take a course in self-development

7. Get Close to Your Shame

Working on your inner scenes of shame strengthens your sense of self

Shame is a relational emotion

Be cautious and choose your listener with care

Take small steps when anxiety looms

8. Give Thought to Whom You Spend Your Time With

Your childhood family

Find good models

Direct your attention to the healthy inner voices

Summary.

9. Establish Friendly Contact with Yourself

It's not you there is something wrong with

Don't obey anxiety

From shame to guilt

Rediscover empathy with yourself

Write to yourself in a loving manner

Through sorrow and on to self-compassion

Afterword

Let emptiness bloom

Are You Hampered By Shame? Test Yourself

Take the test with a pinch of salt

To those of you who get a low score

Advice to those who get a high score

Find the right helper

An enormous opportunity for growth

Bibliography

Acknowledgments

About the Author

Of related interest.

ISBN:

9781805016656

1805016652

9781839971419

183997141X

OCLC:

1338685330