Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors : Brain-Body-Sensory Strategies That Really Work.

Format:

Book

Author/Creator:

Gobbel, Robyn.

Language:

English

Subjects (All):

Child psychology.

Behavior disorders in children.

Child rearing.

Physical Description:

1 online resource (271 pages)

Edition:

1st ed.

Place of Publication:

2023.

London : Jessica Kingsley Publishers, 2023.

Summary:

Parenting and neuroscience expert Robyn Gobbel is here to reveal how all behavior, no matter how baffling, can be explained and remedied. You just need to look past the behavior and understand what's going on inside. Robyn decodes the latest brain science into easy-to-understand principles and metaphors to help you become an expert in your child's behavior. She reveals simple ways to help you regulate and connect with your child, with brain, body, and sensory-based strategies to overcome day-to-day challenges.

Contents:

Intro

Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors

Cover

Of related interest

Title Page

Copyright

Contents

Foreword

Preface

Section 1: How to Become the Expert in Your Child's Behaviors

1. What Behavior Really Is and How to Change It

Wait! Before You Go Any Further: A Brief Note on the Format of This Book

Tell Me More

What Behavior Really Is

No Behavior Is Maladaptive

You Are More Important than You Think

Knowing Isn't Even Half the Battle

Not Quite That Easy

How I Got Here

Relational Neuroscience

(Very) Basic Brain Development

Trauma and Toxic Stress

2. Connection or Protection: The Science of Felt Safety

Felt Safety

Neuroception

Connection or Protection

Inside, Outside, and Between

"But There's Nothing Unsafe!"

All Behavior Makes Sense

Stress Response System

The Science of Safety

3. Trust Me…Your Kid Wants to Be Connected to You

Connection Is a Biological Imperative

Attachment Behaviors

The Attachment Cycle

When the Need Isn't Met

Protection Behaviors

4. What's Regulation Got to Do with It?

Regulation, Regulate, and Regulated

Attachment Theory Is a Regulation Theory

Self-Regulation Isn't the Goal

Resonance Circuitry

Can't Teach Self-Regulation

"Recovery of Function Recapitulates the Development of Function"

Section 2: Now Let's "Fix" those Behaviors

5. Owls, Watchdogs, and Possums-OH MY!

The Wise Owl Brain

The Watchdog Brain and the Possum Brain

Tracking the Owl, Watchdog, and Possum Brains

6. Parenting Strategies that Grow the Owl Brain

Parenting with Co-Regulation

Decrease the Distance

Pretend They Are Houseplants

Structure, Routine, and Predictability

Attunement

Scaffolding.

Increase Connection

Let's Pause Before We Go On

7. Parenting Strategies for the Watchdog Brain

Interventions to Invite Safety, Regulation, and Connection with the Watchdog Brain

Safety Is Always the #1 Goal

The What's Up? Watchdog

The Ready-for-Action! Watchdog

The Back Off! Watchdog Brain

The Attack Watchdog Brain

This Isn't Enough

What's Next?

8. Parenting Strategies for the Possum Brain

Interventions to Invite Safety, Regulation, and Connection with the Possum Brain

A Life Threat Even When It's Not

A Possum Is a Possum Is a Possum

The La-La Land Possum

The Trickster Possum

The Shut-Down Possum and the Play Dead Possum

Get a Drink or a Snack or Move Your Body

9. What to Do When the Owl Brain Returns

But…What About a Consequence?

What Is a Consequence?

First: Repair

Second: Make Success Inevitable

Third: Practice-Playfully!

Fourth: Teach Your Child About Their Brain

Growing Your Owl Brain

Section 3: Why Knowing Isn't Even Half the Battle

10. Why You Can Know How to Respond and Still Not Do It

Your Owl Brain

Your Stress Response System

Implicit Memory: Remembered, Not Recalled

When Being Honest Is Dangerous

Common Parent Mental Models

Big Reaction, Small(er) Problem

We Create What We Expect

Now What?

11. How to Become More Tolerant of Your Child's Behavior

Bicep Curls for the Brain

Connection

Playfulness

Notice the Good

Self-Compassion

Your Owl Brain Exercise Routine

12. How Not to Flip Your Lid-When Your Kid is Flipping Theirs

Regulated, Not Calm

Regulated and Mad

Step 1: Notice

Step 2: Acknowledge without Judgment

Step 3: Self-Compassion

Step 4: Release Tension

Now You're Regulated, Not Calm

Updating Your Mental Models

The Brain Is Changing

Epilogue

Glossary

Acknowledgments.

Endnotes

Subject Index

Author Index.

Notes:

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ISBN:

1-83997-429-X