Love in exile / Shon Faye.

Format:

Book

Author/Creator:

Faye, Shon, 1988- author.

Language:

English

Subjects (All):

Trans people--Great Britain--Biography.

Trans people.

Love.

Man-woman relationships.

Dating (Social customs).

love (emotion).

courtships.

Faye, Shon, 1988-.

Faye, Shon.

Physical Description:

xiii, 191 pages ; 23 cm

Place of Publication:

London : Allen Lane, 2025.

Summary:

"'We ache for love, but love eludes us. Out of this crisis comes so much of what it means to be huma.n' Shon Faye grew up quietly obsessed with the feeling that love was not for him. Not just romantic love: the secret fear of her own unworthiness penetrated every aspect and corner of his life. It was a fear that would erupt in destructive, counterfeit versions of the real love he craved: addictions and short-lived romances that were either euphoric and fantastical, or excruciatingly painful and unhinged, often both. Faye's experience of the world as a trans woman, who grew up visibly queer, exacerbated his fears. But, as he confronted her damaging ideas about love and lovelessness, he came to realize that this sense of exclusion is symptomatic of a much larger problem in our culture. Love, she argues, is as much a collective question as a personal one. Yet our collective ideals of love have developed in a society which is itself profoundly sick and loveless; in which consumer capitalism sells us ever new, engrossing fantasies of becoming more loved or lovable. In this highly politicized terrain, boundaries are purposefully drawn to keep some in and to keep others out. Those who exist outside them are ignored, denigrated, exiled. In Love in Exile, Shon Faye shows love is much greater than the narrow ideals we have been taught to crave so desperately that we are willing to bend and break ourselves to fit them. Wise, funny, unsparing, and suffused with a radical clarity, this is a book of and for our times: for seeing and knowing love, in whatever form it takes, is the meaning of life itself."

Notes:

Includes bibliographical references.

ISBN:

0241605989

9780241605981

OCLC:

1432584296

Publisher Number:

90101349487