Secret thoughts of an adoptive mother / Jana Wolff.

Format:

Book

Author/Creator:

Wolff, Jana.

Language:

English

Subjects (All):

Adoption--United States--Case studies.

Adoption.

Interracial adoption--United States--Case studies.

Interracial adoption.

Open adoption--United States--Case studies.

Open adoption.

Physical Description:

1 online resource (166 p.)

Edition:

2nd ed.

Place of Publication:

Honolulu : Vista Communications, c2000.

Language Note:

English

Summary:

While books about adoption proliferate, none of them addresses the subject of open and interracial adoption like Jana Wolff's personal and frank account does in [i]Secret Thoughts of an Adoptive Mother[/i]. Often irreverent, always insightful, surprisingly funny and stunningly honest, [i]Secret Thoughts[/i] tells it like it is: How it feels for a woman to look nothing like her child and to know the woman who does. This fiercely honest and funny book answers questions no one dares to ask: What if I don't like the child I get? Will she want the baby back? If this is the happiest day of my life,

Contents:

COVER; CONTENTS; ACKNOWLEDGMENTS; PROLOGUE; 1. TO PRODUCE OR TO PURCHASE?: Either way, it's gonna cost; 2. COULD WE LOVE SOMEBODY ELSE'S CHILD?: What if we get a dud?; 3. THE HOME STUDY: MR. & MRS. PERFECT: Your house will never (and need never) be this clean again; 4. MEETING YOUR CHILD'S MOTHER: What do you wear, what do you say, and how do you look without staring?; 5. EXPECTING WITHOUT PREGNANCY: Buy the crib, but hang on to the receipt; 6. UNSPOKEN PREFERENCES: What matters is what you get, not what you want

7. EXCITEMENT OR DOOM?: There's a thin line between being thrilled and being nauseated8. SHOW TIME: Labor and deliverance; 9. IF THIS IS THE HAPPIEST DAY OF MY LIFE, WHY AM I SO SAD?: The myth of bliss; 10. WHY THIS BABY?: Of all the babies born tonight, how did you get us? Of all the people wanting a baby, how did we get you?; 11. A FAMILY OF STRANGERS: Related, but not relatives; 12. THE NAME GAME: Should we name him after my family, your family, or her family?; 13. LOVING BEFORE IT'S LEGAL: Parenting without permission; 14. SAYING GOODBYE: Even the right decision can feel wrong

15. COMING HOME: Everything old seems new everything new seems foreign; 16. FAMILY TREES WITHOUT ROOTS: Hoping blood isn't thicker than water; 17. MOTHER LOVE: Babies can make mommies drool; 18. SPIT-UP IS SPIT-UP: Adopted poop doesn't smell any different; 19. CAN WE RETURN THIS CHILD?: Feelings that top the taboos; 20. SHOULD WE SEND CUTE OR UGLY PICTURES?: Will she want him back when she sees those dimples?; 21. IS IT MOTHER'S DAY OR MOTHERS' DAY?: No one's serving her breakfast in bed; 22. ADOPTION: THE ULTIMATE BIRTHMARK: Well, that explains everything, or nothing at all

23. BEING BLACK AND JEWISH: Happy Kwanzukah24. FRIENDLY RACISM: Are they staring, or am I paranoid?; 25. WHITES RAISING BLACKS: Good intentions, bad qualifications; 26. MOTHER AND CHILD REUNION: Is she going to kiss him or kidnap him?; EPILOGUE; AUTHOR'S NOTE

Notes:

Description based upon print version of record.

ISBN:

1-283-05184-2

9786613051844

0-9672143-2-7

OCLC:

707068840