Not under my roof : parents, teens, and the culture of sex / Amy T. Schalet.

Format:

Book

Author/Creator:

Schalet, Amy T.

Language:

English

Subjects (All):

Teenagers--Sexual behavior--Netherlands.

Teenagers.

Teenagers--Sexual behavior--United States.

Parent and teenager--United States.

Parent and teenager.

Parent and teenager--Netherlands.

Physical Description:

1 online resource (309 p.)

Place of Publication:

Chicago ; London : University of Chicago Press, 2011.

Language Note:

English

Summary:

Winner of the Healthy Teen Network's Carol Mendez Cassell Award for Excellence in Sexuality Education and the American Sociological Association's Children and Youth Section's 2012 Distinguished Scholarly Research Award For American parents, teenage sex is something to be feared and forbidden: most would never consider allowing their children to have sex at home, and sex is a frequent source of family conflict. In the Netherlands, where teenage pregnancies are far less frequent than in the United States, parents aim above all for family cohesiveness, often permitting young couples to sleep together and providing them with contraceptives. Drawing on extensive interviews with parents and teens, Not Under My Roof offers an unprecedented, intimate account of the different ways that girls and boys in both countries negotiate love, lust, and growing up. Tracing the roots of the parents' divergent attitudes, Amy T. Schalet reveals how they grow out of their respective conceptions of the self, relationships, gender, autonomy, and authority. She provides a probing analysis of the way family culture shapes not just sex but also alcohol consumption and parent-teen relationships. Avoiding caricatures of permissive Europeans and puritanical Americans, Schalet shows that the Dutch require self-control from teens and parents, while Americans guide their children toward autonomous adulthood at the expense of the family bond.

Contents:

Raging hormones, regulated love

Dutch parents and the sleepover

American parents and the drama of adolescent sexuality

Adversarial and interdependent individualism

"I didn't even want them to know": connection through control

"At least they know where I am": control through connection

Romantic rebels, regular lovers

Sexuality, self-formation, and the state

Conclusion: Beyond the drama

Methodological appendix.

Notes:

Description based upon print version of record.

Includes bibliographical references and index.

Description based on online resource; title from PDF title page (publisher's Web site, viewed 24. Apr 2020)

ISBN:

9786613265159

9781283265157

128326515X

9780226736204

0226736202

OCLC:

754216948