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The intimacy dance : a guide to long-term success in gay and lesbian relationships / Betty Berzon.
LIBRA HQ76.3.U5 B467 1997
Available from offsite location
- Format:
- Book
- Author/Creator:
- Berzon, Betty.
- Language:
- English
- Subjects (All):
- Gay couples--United States--Psychology.
- Gay couples.
- Lesbian couples--United States--Psychology.
- Lesbian couples.
- Intimacy (Psychology).
- Commitment (Psychology).
- Gay couples--Psychology.
- Lesbian couples--Psychology.
- United States.
- Physical Description:
- 291 pages ; 20 cm
- Other Title:
- Guide to long-term success in gay and lesbian relationships
- Long-term success in gay and lesbian relationships
- Gay and lesbian relationships
- Place of Publication:
- New York : Plume, [1997], ©1996.
- Summary:
- The author of the now-classic Permanent Partners presents a helpful, compassionate, and wise guide for lesbian and gay couples as their relationships mature. When Permanent Partners appeared in 1988, it was widely hailed as the first significant book aimed at helping lesbian and gay couples build fulfilling partnerships. Now, drawing on additional insights she has gained in the intervening years, Betty Berzon provides specific advice for those in long-term relationships (three years and longer) who are coping with the inevitable surprises, complications, and concerns about identities merging, sex waning, or the inability to resolve conflicts. Since gay and lesbian partners have few models to guide them, couples too often opt for ending the relationship rather than learning to work through their problems. Weaving in the story of her own twenty-two year relationship, Dr. Berzon addresses these issues along with failures of communication, competing career demands, illnesses, substance-abuse problems, and mid-life crises. She also deals with the issue of monogamy, and though she discourages non-monogamy, she provides strategies for how best to deal with an open relationship when that is what a couple decides to do. As the leading authority on strengthening gay and lesbian partnerships, Dr. Berzon provides the soundest and most realistic advice for any couple interested in a stable and rewarding life together.
- Contents:
- The intimacy dance
- its rewards, its perils
- Discovery and disclosure
- the never-ending need to understand each other better
- Is this really it? Am I missing something out there?
- The child is still within us
- Talking it over
- constructive complaining, differences and diputes, healing the wounds
- Sex in the long tern
- its delights and dilemmas
- The challenge to keep growing
- does it have to be so much work?
- The years bring change
- coping with transitions
- The outside world
- an ongoing force in your relationship
- Couple counseling
- how can it help?
- Epilogue: stability, continuity, renewal, and the joy of never having to go out on another date.
- Notes:
- Originally published: New York : Dutton, 1996.
- "A Plume book."
- "First Plume printing, September, 1997"--Title page verso
- Includes bibliographical references (pages 283-284) and index.
- Local Notes:
- Gift of the William Way LGBT Community Center.
- ISBN:
- 0452277477
- 9780452277472
- OCLC:
- 37692357
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