Emotionally resilient tweens and teens : empowering your kids to navigate bullying, teasing, and social exclusion / Kim John Payne, M.E.D., and Luis Fernando Llosa.

Format:

Book

Author/Creator:

Payne, Kim John, author.

Llosa, Luis Fernando, author.

Contributor:

Commins-Holman Family Fund.

Language:

English

Subjects (All):

Resilience (Personality trait) in adolescence.

Bullying.

Rejection (Psychology) in adolescence.

Physical Description:

286 pages ; 23 cm

Edition:

First edition.

Place of Publication:

Boulder : Shambhala, [2022]

Summary:

"The teen years are rife with social landmines in school, sports, and other activities--and instances of teasing, bullying, and exclusion are unfortunately all too common. Social media has only made this behavior easier and more insidious. But when kids learn to respond effectively, manage their emotions in the situation, and recognize their self-worth, they can reclaim a sense of their own power, and develop skills for life. Kim John Payne, an education consultant, and parenting expert, offers guidance in tandem with ten inspirational stories by young adults who have navigated bullying and social exclusion--and triumphed. It gives teens the tools to address the problem themselves, giving them mastery over the situation--rather than having parents step in and try to "fix" things. Parents, teens, and educator learn critical anti-bullying skills and strategies including How to figure out why you are being teased How to handle rumors How to deal with physical bullying How to break out of feeling everybody hates you How to develop an empowered attitude when dealing with a bully How to deal with overbearing or bullying brothers or sisters How to differentiate tattletaling from truth-telling How to stand up for others without making it worse for yourself How to make real friends And much more Payne says, "You can't control what comes at you in life, but you absolutely can control where and how you meet it," and this book helps kids understand that while they can't necessarily make a bully stop, they can absolutely stand their ground and take their power back. They can strongly influence the whole situation rather than feel they have to passively accept what is happening. This is essential reading for anyone with teens in their life, to help them experience their own power, find their own voices, learn how to problem-solve, and navigate their way out of challenging situations"-- Provided by publisher.

Contents:

Part one: Advice to parents

What to do and what not to do

Belonging is a process, not a right

Bullying without borders: Cyberbullying

"I can help. I am here for you."

Part Two: Your ten-story toolbox

The new kid: Anika's story

But what if it's true?: Daniel's story

How I got my confidence back: Sara's story

A new group, a new me: Joey's story

It's life that's bullying me: Sophie's story

The shy kid's gift of inner strength: Destiny's story

Stop pushing me around: Michael's story

Rumors and whispers: Elena's story

Truth telling and tattling: Emma's story

Standing up and speaking out: Darpan's story.

Notes:

Includes bibliographical references.

Local Notes:

Acquired for the Penn Libraries with assistance from the Commins-Holman Family Fund.

ISBN:

9781611805642

1611805643

OCLC:

1187225187

Publisher Number:

99991262979