How to hold a grudge : from resentment to contentment : the power of grudges to transform your life / Sophie Hannah.

Format:

Book

Author/Creator:

Hannah, Sophie, 1971- author.

Contributor:

Howard R. Jachman Memorial Fund.

Language:

English

Subjects (All):

Forgiveness.

Conduct of life.

Genre:

Self-help publications.

Nonfiction.

Physical Description:

vi, 260 pages ; 22 cm

Edition:

First Scribner hardcover edition.

Place of Publication:

New York : Scribner, 2019.

Summary:

Argues that readers can use grudge-holding to be their happiest, most optimistic, and most forgiving selves.

"Slights, snubs, emotional wounds, unprovoked attacks. They happen to us all. But aren't we supposed to just forgive, forget, and move on? Bearing a grudge is too negative, right? Wrong! Grudges, when held correctly, are an essential part of a healthy psychological diet. Internationally bestselling author and grudge guru Sophie Hannah has elevated the practice of grudge-holding to a fine art--one that can improve the quality of our relationships at home, at the office, and everywhere else people might annoy or offend us. Blending the practical with the philosophical, How to Hold a Grudge examines the origins of grudges and shows readers how to harness their power to transform sources of resentment into wellsprings of affirming, long-lasting contentment. With this brilliant and hilarious guide, you will be able to grudge your way to your happiest, most optimistic, and most forgiving self."--Back cover.

Slights, snubs, emotional wounds, unprovoked attacks-- they happen to us all. Bearing a grudge is negative, right? Wrong! Hannah shows how grudges, when held correctly, are an essential part of a healthy psychological diet. She examines the origins of grudges and shows readers how to harness their power to transform sources of resentment into wellsprings of affirming, long-lasting contentment. -- adapted from back cover

Contents:

Grudges can be great!

What grudges are, what they aren't and what they should be

The many different kinds of grudge

How to grade a grudge

Grudge is all around us

Why we hold grudges

and why some people don't

The grudge-fold path

How to convert negative grudge energy into positive grudge energy

Bad and invalid grudges

The "grudget': managing your grudge budget

How to be a responsible grudge-holder

Other grudge stories

a very short anthology.

Notes:

"Grudges, when held correctly, are an essential part of a healthy psychological diet. With contributions from expert psychotherapists as well as extracts from her own extensive catalog of grudges, Sophie Hannah investigates the psychological origins of grudges and also offers not-so-obvious insights into how we should acknowledge--and embrace--them in order to improve the quality of our interpersonal relationships and senses of self. Grudges do not have to fill us with hate or make us toxic, bitter, and miserable. If we approach the practice of grudge-holding in an enlightened way, it will do the opposite--we will become more forgiving. Practical, compassionate, and downright funny, How to Hold a Grudge reveals everything we need to know about the many different forms of grudge, the difference between a grudge and not-a-grudge (not as obvious as it seems), when we should let a grudge go, and how to honor a grudge and distill lessons from it that will turn us into better, happier people--for our own benefit and for the sake of spreading good and limiting harm in the world.

Local Notes:

Acquired for the Penn Libraries with assistance from the Howard R. Jachman Memorial Fund.

ISBN:

9781982111427

1982111429

OCLC:

1079910499

Publisher Number:

99982988104