Bearing the unbearable : love, loss, and the heartbreaking path of grief / Joanne Cacciatore, PhD ; foreword by Jeffrey B. Rubin, PhD.

Format:

Book

Author/Creator:

Cacciatore, Joanne, author.

Language:

English

Subjects (All):

Grief.

Loss (Psychology).

Adjustment (Psychology).

Love.

grief.

Emotional Adjustment.

Medical Subjects:

Grief.

Emotional Adjustment.

Love.

Genre:

Nonfiction

Physical Description:

222 pages ; 23 cm

Place of Publication:

Somerville, MA : Wisdom Publications, [2017]

Summary:

When a loved one dies, the pain of loss can feel unbearable, especially in the case of a traumatizing death that leaves us shouting, 'NO!' with every fiber of our body. The process of grieving can feel wild and nonlinear and often lasts for much longer than other people, the nonbereaved, tell us it should. This book is a companion for life and most difficult times, revealing how grief can open our hearts to connection, compassion, and the very essence of our shared humanity. The author, who is also a bereavement educator, researcher, Zen priest, and leading counselor in the field accompanies the reader along the heartbreaking path of love, loss, and grief. Through moving stories of her encounters with grief over decades of supporting individuals, families, and communities, as well as her own experience with loss, the author opens a space to process, integrate, and deeply honor our grief.

Contents:

The Role of Others in Our Grief

Public And Private Grief

Ritual and Artistic Expressions of Grief

Early Manifestations of Grief

Nutrient-Deficient Soil

Cultural Sensitivity

Bearing the Unbearable

Pause, Reflect, and Feeling Meaning

The Terror Beneath the Terror

The Pursuit of Happiness and the Unity of Opposites

Bypassing Grief, Bypassing Love

Intensity and Coping

Contraction and Expansion

The Collision of Love And Loss

Boundless and Timeless Love

Personifying Grief

Pausing With Grief

The Practice of Being With

My Heart Cried Many Tears

The Barefoot Walkabout

The Vitality of Self-Care

Self-Care and Sleep

Ways to Care for Yourself

Telling Family and Friends What We Need

Self-Case as Distraction

Learning, Adapting, and Trusting Intuition

Re-Grieving

Surrendering and Stretching

When We Fragment

Duration of Grief

The Courage to Remember

Joining Hands

The Power of Unprocessed Traumatic Grief

Silenced for Decades

Guilt and Shame

Inward and Outward

Works of Love

Waves of Grief

"Remember Me," She Said

Ritual and Microritual

Meaning Through Compassionate Action

Kindness Projects

Through Knowing Suffering

Fierce Compassion

The Horse Chemakoh

The Price of Unrealized Grief and Trauma

Transgenerational Grief

Grief Broth

The Darkness Has Its Gifts

What I Know.

Notes:

Includes index.

Other Format:

Online version: Cacciatore, Joanne. Bearing the unbearable.

ISBN:

9781614292968

1614292965

OCLC:

962006409

Publisher Number:

99993790909

40027879675