Passing judgment : praise and blame in everyday life / Terri Apter.

Format:

Book

Author/Creator:

Apter, T. E., author.

Language:

English

Subjects (All):

Judgment.

Judgment (Ethics).

Blame.

Praise.

PSYCHOLOGY / Social Psychology.

FAMILY & RELATIONSHIPS.

Self-Help.

Local Subjects:

Blame.

PSYCHOLOGY / Social Psychology.

FAMILY & RELATIONSHIPS.

Self-Help.

Physical Description:

vii, 314 pages ; 23 cm

Edition:

First Edition.

Other Title:

Praise and blame in everyday life

Place of Publication:

New York, NY : W.W. Norton & Company, [2018]

Summary:

"Do you know that praise is essential to the growth of a healthy brain? That experiences of praise and blame affect how long we live? That the conscious and unconscious judgments we engage in every day began as a crucial survival technique? Do you think people shouldn't be judgmental? But, how judgmental are you, and how does this impact your relationships? [The author] reveals how everyday judgments impact our relationships, and how praise, blame, and shame shape our sense of self. Our obsession with praise and blame begins soon after birth. Totally dependent on others, rapidly we learn to value praise, and to fear the consequences of blame. Despite outgrowing an infant's dependence, we continue to monitor others' judgments of us, and we ourselves develop what relational psychologist Terri Apter calls a "judgment meter," which constantly scans people and our interactions with them, and registers a positive or negative opinion. In[this book, the author] reveals how interactions between parents and children, within couples, and among friends and colleagues are permeated with praise and blame that range far beyond specific compliments and accusations. Drawing on three decades of research, [the author] gives us the tools to learn about our personal needs, goals and values, to manage our biases, to tolerate others' views, and to make sense of our most powerful, and often confusing, responses to ourselves and to others."--Amazon.com.

Contents:

Introduction

The beginnings of human judgment

The chemistry, economics, and psychology of praise

Blame: the necessity and devastation of guilt and shame

Family judgments, family systems

Just friends: praise and blame between peers

Intimate judgments: praise and blame within couples

Professional dues: praise and blame in the workplace

Social media and the new challenges to our judgment meter

Lifelong judgments.

Notes:

Includes bibliographical references (pages 253-304) and index.

ISBN:

9780393247855

0393247856

OCLC:

1010585049