Lawfully wedded husband : how my gay marriage will save the American family / Joel Derfner.

Format:

Book

Author/Creator:

Derfner, Joel, author.

Series:

Living out.

Living Out : Gay and Lesbian Autobiographies

Language:

English

Subjects (All):

Gay men--United States--Biography.

Gay men.

Gay authors--United States--Biography.

Gay authors.

Same-sex marriage--United States.

Same-sex marriage.

Derfner, Joel.

Physical Description:

1 online resource (248 pages) : illustrations.

Edition:

1st ed.

Place of Publication:

Madison, Wisconsin : The University of Wisconsin Press, 2013.

Language Note:

English

Summary:

When Joel Derfner's boyfriend proposed to him, there was nowhere in America the two could legally marry. That changed quickly, however, and before long the two were on what they expected to be a rollicking journey to married bliss. What they didn't realize was that, along the way, they would confront not just the dilemmas every couple faces on the way to the altar-what kind of ceremony would they have? what would they wear? did they have to invite Great Aunt Sophie?-but also questions about what a relationship can and can't do, the definition of marriage, and, ultimately, what makes a family. Add to the mix a reality show whose director forces them to keep signing and notarizing applications for a wedding license until the cameraman gets a shot she likes; a family marriage history that includes adulterers, arms smugglers, and poisoners; and discussions of civil rights, Sophocles, racism, grammar, and homemade Ouija boards-coupled with Derfner's gift for getting in his own way-and what results is a story not just of gay marriage and the American family but of what it means to be human.

Contents:

Intro

Contents

Introduction

1. Saying Yes

2. Researching Family Marriage Traditions

3. Deciding on Living Arrangements

4. Dealing with the Legal Business

5. Dealing with the Legal Business, Take Two

6. Planning the Ceremony

7. Taking Stock of the Relationship

8. Taking Care of Last-Minute Details

9. Getting Married

10. Living Happily Ever After

Epilogue

Appendix: A Brief and Highly Biased Legislative History of American Marriage Equality with Respect to Sexuality

Acknowledgments.

Notes:

Bibliographic Level Mode of Issuance: Monograph

Description based on print version record.

ISBN:

9780299294939

0299294935

OCLC:

860993348