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Our loving relationship / William G. Emener and William A. Lambos.
- Format:
- Book
- Author/Creator:
- Emener, William G. (William George)
- Language:
- English
- Subjects (All):
- Marital psychotherapy.
- Family psychotherapy.
- Physical Description:
- 1 online resource (338 p.)
- Edition:
- 1st ed.
- Place of Publication:
- New York : Nova Science Publishers, c2009.
- Language Note:
- English
- Summary:
- The primary focus of this book is on mutual ('us', 'we', and 'me and you') issues pertinent to loving relationships - the couple and their relationship.
- Contents:
- Intro
- OUR LOVING RELATIONSHIP
- DEDICATION
- CONTENTS
- LIST OF FIGURES
- ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS
- PROLOGUE
- ABOUT THIS BOOK
- A COMPANION BOOK
- SOME CRITICAL ASSUMPTIONS
- A BIBLIOTHERAPEUTIC APPROACH
- THE ROAD AHEAD
- Chapter One LOVE
- TYPES OF LOVE
- THIS IS YOUR BRAIN ON LOVE
- DIFFERENCES BETWEEN LOVE AND...
- DON'T CONFUSE LOVE WITH...
- LOVE TRIANGLE
- UNCONDITIONAL LOVE
- Chapter Two LOVING
- BEING LOVED AND FEELING LOVED
- LOVING ROLES WE PLAY
- A TRIPLE-A RATING
- MY NEED TO FEEL SPECIAL
- THE LITTLE CHILD WITHIN US
- LITTLE THINGS MEAN A LOT
- FORGETTING AND FORGIVING
- Chapter Three OUR PASTS
- YOUR INDIVIDUAL PASTS
- YOUR RELATIONSHIP'S PAST, PRESENT AND FUTURES
- THE INTERACTION EFFECT OF YOUR PASTS
- DYSFUNCTIONAL RELATIONSHIPS AND LIVING PARALLEL LIVES
- RECYCLING ONE'S ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP HISTORY
- Chapter Four RELATIONSHIP ANALYSIS
- A BEST INDICATION
- SIGNS OF DECAY
- OUR RELATIONSHIP
- QUESTIONS WE ASK OURSELVES
- TARGETS OF OUR ATTENTION
- SITUATIONAL ISSUES AND RELATIONSHIP ISSUES
- CHARACTERISTICS OF AN IDEAL RELATIONSHIP
- GOOD AND BAD TIMES
- CAPACITIES AND POTENTIALS
- WHAT YOU WANT AND WHAT HE/SHE NEEDS
- UNDERSTANDING YOUR DANCE
- RELATIONSHIP POTENTIALS
- QUESTIONS TO ASK
- NURSE-PATIENT RELATIONSHIPS
- THE LIGHTNING ROD IN A RELATIONSHIP
- LEVELS OF A RELATIONSHIP
- THE PIECES OF MY LIFE YOU WANT
- Chapter Five CONGRUENCE AND BALANCE
- THE A, B, C'S OF LOVING RELATIONSHIPS
- LINKAGES: FEELINGS, THOUGHTS AND ACTIONS
- BALANCE
- NEW EXPERIENCES - OLD FEELINGS
- WHAT I WANT YOU TO SEE
- THINK IT, FEEL IT, AND DO IT
- Chapter Six OUTSIDE FACTORS AND FEATURES
- PRIMARY-IMMEDIATE FAMILY
- BLENDED FAMILIES
- CHILDREN
- DISTANCE
- A DISABILITY
- OTHER OUTSIDE FACTORS
- Chapter Seven OTHER PEOPLE.
- A THIRD PERSON IN A TWO-SEATER
- THE TRANSITION PERSON
- THE AFFAIR PERSON
- THE MAINTENANCE PERSON
- Chapter Eight NEEDS AND WANTS
- DIFFERENCES BETWEEN NEEDS AND WANTS
- MEETING MY NEEDS AND WANTS
- MATCHING OUR ROLES WITH OUR NEEDS
- SIMILAR WANTS AND NEEDS
- IN OR OUTSIDE THE RELATIONSHIP
- OVER-ESTIMATING OUR EXPECTATIONS OF EACH OTHER
- LIMITED ASSUMPTIONS
- LOGICAL CONSEQUENCES
- Chapter Nine EXPECTATIONS AND DEPENDENCE
- WHAT ARE YOUR EXPECTATIONS
- LET OTHERS KNOW WHAT YOU EXPECT
- SOCIAL SANCTIONING
- CO-, IN-, AND INTER-DEPENDENCE
- Chapter Ten BOUNDARIES AND CONTROL
- VALUES: FOUNDATIONS FOR BOUNDARIES
- NEGOTIATING BOUNDARIES AND LIMITS
- ONLY ONE "SHOULD"
- FUNCTIONAL AND DYSFUNCTIONAL CONTROLS
- ACTIVE AND PASSIVE CONTROL
- PERCEIVED CONTROL
- INTERNAL AND EXTERNAL CONTROL
- Chapter Eleven LIFESTYLES
- INDIVIDUAL LIFESTYLES AND RELATIONSHIP LIFESTYLES
- FUNCTIONAL AND DYSFUNCTIONAL LIFESTYLES
- CONTROL YOUR RELATIONSHIP LIFESTYLE
- COMMUNICATION STYLES
- LIVING A LIE
- Chapter Twelve MONETARY AND EQUITY ISSUES
- MONEY
- VALUES AND ATTITUDES
- WORTH AND MEANING
- EQUITABLE EQUITY
- MONETARY AND EQUITY ISSUES THAT COUPLES IN LONG-TERM RELATIONSHIPS NEED TO PAY ATTENTION TO
- Chapter Thirteen PROBLEMS
- SOLVABLE PROBLEMS
- UNSOLVABLE PROBLEMS
- MAKING PROBLEMS LESS PROBLEMATIC
- GRIDLOCK
- ABUSE
- SEPARATION
- FIGHTING WELL
- Chapter Fourteen RELATIONSHIP SKILLS
- ESTABLISHING, MAINTAINING AND ENDING SKILLS
- During the Establishing Stage:
- During the Maintenance Stage:
- During the Ending Stage:
- EMPATHY (LISTENING) SKILLS
- IMPORTANCE OF COPING SKILLS
- Chapter Fifteen SEEING A PROFESSIONAL COUNSELOR, THERAPIST OR FAMILY MEDIATOR
- SEEKING PROFESSIONAL HELP
- WHAT ARE YOUR GOALS
- ONE THERAPIST, ONE CLIENT
- WANTS AND WILLINGNESSES.
- WILLINGNESS TO WORK
- BE YOUR BEST TO GIVE YOUR BEST
- REAL VERSUS SOCIAL RECOVERY
- WHAT ARE MY/OUR OPTIONS?
- Chapter Sixteen HOW A PROFESSIONAL COUNSELOR, THERAPIST OR FAMILY MEDIATOR CAN BE HELPFUL TO YOU
- RESPONSIBILITY: CAUSE ⇔ CURE
- PAST ⇔ FUTURE
- APPRECIATION AND UNDERSTANDING
- I COULD DO - YOU COULD DO
- ANALYZE THE LOVE IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP
- STRUCTURE YOUR SCHEDULE, INCLUDING TIME FOR PSYCHOLOGICAL VACATIONS
- MEDIATION AS AN ALTERNATIVE TO COUNSELING AND THERAPY
- BENEFITS OF SUPPORT GROUPS
- Chapter Seventeen SOME SUGGESTIONS ABOUT GETTING HELP FROM A PROFESSIONAL
- WE HELP YOU HELP YOURSELF
- AVOID QUICK-FIX TEMPTATIONS
- AVOID SUBCONSCIOUS SABOTAGE
- THE PARALYSIS OF ANALYSIS
- STAY FOCUSED ON THE PRESENT
- STAGES OF CHANGE EFFORTS
- PROGRESS MAY BE SLOW AND GRADUAL
- REALISTIC EXPECTATIONS: BEHAVIOR AND EMOTIONS
- DON'T EXPECT IMMEDIATE RESULTS
- THE DOWNSIDE OF AN UPSWING
- WHEN TO COME BACK
- Epilogue REFLECTIONS AND DOORKNOB ISSUES
- REFLECTIONS
- DOORKNOB ISSUES
- ABOUT THE AUTHORS
- SUBJECT INDEX
- Blank Page.
- Notes:
- Includes index.
- Description based on print version record.
- ISBN:
- 1-61668-121-7
- OCLC:
- 923663345
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