You don't really know me : why mothers & daughters fight and how both can win / Terri Apter.

Format:

Book

Author/Creator:

Apter, T. E.

Language:

English

Subjects (All):

Mothers and daughters--Psychology.

Mothers and daughters.

Physical Description:

viii, 280 pages ; 22 cm

Edition:

First edition.

Place of Publication:

New York : W. W. Norton, [2004]

Summary:

MOTHERS AND TEENAGE DAUGHTERS argue more than any other child-parent pair--on average every two-and-a-half days. These quarrels, Terri Apter shows, are attempts to negotiate changes in a relationship that is valued by both mothers and daughters. A daughter often feels her mother doesn't know or understand her, and by fighting hopes to force her mother into a new awareness of who she really is, how she has changed, and what she is now capable of doing and understanding. But mothers often misinterpret their daughter's outbursts as signs of rejection, and they may pull back feeling hurt and confused. Through case studies and conversations between mothers and daughters, Apter shows mothers how to interpret the meanings behind a daughter's angry words and how to emerge from arguments with a new closeness.

Contents:

The mother/daughter plot

"You're not listening!" : the battle for recognition

"Let me live my own life!" : why teenage girls are insulted by parental concern

"She can pick an argument out of thin air!" : what lies behind teenage irritability

Power struggle : the choreography of status

Learning to fight : friendship and conflict

Portraits of mother/daughter meltdown

My mother, my father : two different relationships

"I'm too fat!" : the ambiguity of physical growth

"I know that already!" : sex talk

"So that's how you feel!" : how conflict can lead to closeness

The life-long dialogue.

Notes:

Includes bibliographical references (pages 265-269) and index.

ISBN:

0393057585

OCLC:

53398089