Doing the work of love : men & commitment in same-sex couples / J. Michael Clark.

Format:

Book

Author/Creator:

Clark, J. Michael (John Michael), 1953-

Language:

English

Subjects (All):

Gay couples--United States.

Gay couples.

United States.

Lesbian couples--United States.

Lesbian couples.

Same-sex marriage--United States.

Same-sex marriage.

Physical Description:

v, 156 pages ; 21 cm

Edition:

First edition.

Other Title:

Men and commitment in same-sex couples

Place of Publication:

Harriman, Tenn. : Men's Studies Press, [1999]

Summary:

"Clark's critique of the objectification that occurs in the 'sexual delivery system' in the gay male subculture and his description of his and his partner's emergence from that subculture into a committed, ongoing, day-to-day relationship contribute significantly to the literature that is stretching toward new ways of creating more just and satisfying intimate relationships outside of sexist and heterosexual consciousness"--Stephen B. Boyd, Wake Forest University.

Contents:

1. Discerning the Ethical Landscape: A Theological Introduction 1

2. Deghettoizing Gay Men's Lives: Phenomenology and Prophecy 9

I. Demystifying the Ghetto 13

II. Gaining Critical Perspective 21

3. Doing Gay Ethics: Sexuality and Relationships 32

I. Reclaiming Authentic Consent 38

II. Celebrating Gay Couples 43

4. Doing Men's Studies: A Gay Perspective 53

I. Revisiting Masculine Socialization 56

A. Misogyny and Violence 59

B. Performance Anxiety and Works Righteousness 63

II. Transforming Gay Men's Lives 67

A. Breaking Vicious Circles 67

B. Reconstructing Gay Sexuality 73

5. Doing our Homework: A Conversational Intermission 76

6. Doing the Work of Love: An Extended Case Study 96

I. Function and Dysfunction 99

II. Fears, Inadequacies, and Limitations 105

III. Emotional and Physical Needs 107

IV. Friendships 110

V. Home or "Safe Space" 115

VI. Time, Mortality, and Hope 118

VII. An Ethical Commitment 121

7. Being In-Relation: Epilogue 123

Appendix In Celebration of Our Tenth Anniversary 127.

Notes:

Includes bibliographical references (pages [150]-152) and index.

ISBN:

0967179408

0967179416

OCLC:

42894664