Understanding the borderline mother : helping her children transcend the intense, unpredictable, and volatile relationship / Christine Ann Lawson.

Format:

Book

Author/Creator:

Lawson, Christine Ann.

Language:

English

Subjects (All):

Borderline personality disorder.

Mothers--Mental health.

Maternal rejection.

Physical Description:

xvii, 330 pages ; 23 cm

Place of Publication:

Northvale, N.J. : Jason Aronson, 2000.

Summary:

The first love in our lives is our mother. Recognizing her face, her voice, the meaning of her moods, and her facial expressions is crucial to survival. Dr. Christine Ann Lawson vividly describes how mothers who suffer from borderline personality disorder produce children who may flounder in life even as adults, futilely struggling to reach the safety of a parental harbor, unable to recognize that their borderline parent lacks a pier, or even a discernible shore. Four character profiles describe different symptom clusters that include the waif mother, the hermit mother, the queen mother, and the witch. Children of borderlines are at risk for developing this complex and devastating personality disorder themselves. Dr. Lawson's recommendations for prevention include empathic understanding of the borderline mother and early intervention with her children to ground them in reality and counteract the often dangerous effects of living with a 'make-believe' mother. Some readers may recognize their mothers as well as themselves in this book. They will also find specific suggestions for creating healthier relationships. Addressing the adult children of borderlines and the therapists who work with them, Dr. Lawson shows how to care for the waif without rescuing her, to attend to the hermit without feeding her fear, to love the queen without becoming her subject, and to live with the witch without becoming her victim. A Jason Aronson Book

Contents:

1. Make-Believe Mothers 1

2. The Darkness Within 31

3. The Waif Mother 53

4. The Hermit Mother 77

5. The Queen Mother 99

6. The Witch Mother 119

7. Make-Believe Children 151

8. Fairy-Tale Fathers 175

9. Loving the Waif Without Rescuing Her 199

10. Loving the Hermit Without Feeding Her Fear 225

11. Loving the Queen Without Becoming Her Subject 247

12. Living with the Witch Without Becoming Her Victim 269

13. Living Backwards 291.

Notes:

Includes bibliographical references (pages [309]-316) and index.

ISBN:

0765702886

OCLC:

43913255